Monday, August 03, 2009

Whine Fest


I normally don't do this on my blog, but I need to whine, and rather than dumping on my family and close personal friends, what better way to unburden myself than to veritable strangers?

So here goes. Have you ever had those times in your life that were sort of a helix of stress, tension, frustration, emotion, and chaos? That time when it is the worst possible moment for things to go wrong, and of course, that is exactly when they do? Or, when you absolutely must focus on Thing 1 to the exclusion of all else, and then Thing 2 catches on fire on your desk and must be attended to at once?

I'm having one of those months. Yes, it's a month-long suck-fest for me right now, and I'm hoping the end is in sight. Life is generally good, but this week...not so good, already.

Luckily, my pessimism has defined limits and I usually kick myself in the tail and snap out of it before I climb up on the rooftop with my BB gun, but still...

Sigh. Okay, whine-fest over...Back to your regularly scheduled programming. Think happy thoughts! Shiny, happy thoughts!

What do YOU do when you can't get out from under and the light at the end of the tunnel might possibly be the Southbound Amtrak?

TJB

11 comments:

aromagik said...

I find a quiet place - even if it's just for a minute or two - and think about all the things that could be worse, and the things I'm truly thankful for.

Hope it gets better soon. XO

~Lindy

Margay said...

Oh, my gosh, that last line perfectly sums up the past seven years of my life! With discovering that I had Multiple Sclerosis just months before my younger daughter being diagnosed with bipolar disorder - she has since been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, as well, and has scoliosis so bad she needs surgery - and worrying about the health of a sister with Crohn's, a brother with kidney disease and a tethered spine, and other assorted dilemmas, it really does seem like the light at the end of the tunnel is on a train. And with all of the appointments I've had to go to or take other people to (mother and sister don't drive, so I take them, when my brother has a procedure done, I pick him up, and of course I drive myself and my daughters to appointments), not to mention dealing with a school that didn't understand my daughter's issues (or handle them well), there is little time left to be human, let alone breathe. So what do I do then? I laugh. I call my sister or my mother and I find a reason to laugh because I know that the gift of laughter will keep me going. It really is the ultimate gift; the one gift you can enjoy yourself without coming off as selfish or give away without coming off as ungrateful. As long as I can laugh about something, I will get through the moment, get through the hour, get through the day. So go find a crazy video on Youtube or a silly picture on LOL Cats and just laugh. You'll be glad you did.

Oh, and venting is good, too. Get it out of your system. You feel so much better when you unburden yourself.

Margay

TJ Bennett said...

You're absolutely right, Lindy. And after reading what you have to say, Margay, I'm going to stop and count my blessings. And send a few prayers up for you and your family.

I love to laugh, but sometimes I forget to take the time to do it. I've so much on my plate right now, and so many things that need to be accomplished, that taking time for any fun seems so irresponsible. However, it is a question of sanity to do that every now and then. I've been working so hard lately, I've forced myself to take a break at least once a day to get on my treadmill with my Kindle and read a good book (yes, I even multitask when I relax). Really, the main reason for the treadmill is that I spend most of my day on my butt at a computer and due to family history, I fear blood clots! So I make myself take a break and stretch my legs. It helps. Maybe I should lower my expectations a bit, too. Perfect isn't everything, right? LOL!

Thanks, ladies.

TJB

cheryl c said...

Getting lost in a good book for a while does wonders for me!

Sending a hug your way with hopes that things get better soon! :-)

Susan Helene Gottfried said...

You're describing my life at the moment, you know...

M. said...

Sorry to hear about your helix (great visual, BTW). I try very hard to take care of my physical health in those situations, so that my mental preoccupation dooesn't lead to headaches and colds and general malaise. I also get my chiropractor (who happens to be my DH) to check my spine to make sure everything is all properly aligned so my nervous system is functioning at optimal level.

Virginia said...

I try to go for a long walk by myself or bury myself in a good book. I have a lot of those times myself, so I feel for you. Sometimes I think if it wasn't for bad luck I would have no luck at all.

etirv said...

I know how it is, TJ. Watching TV always comforts me! Everything will be OK!

TJ Bennett said...

Thanks for all the kind words, ladies. Believe it or not, that helps, too! I guess we've all been in the same boat at one time or another...sigh....

TJB

Carol L. said...

I'm late to the posting T.J.
But as far as a suck fest, that was truly my life for almost twenty years.
Anyway, that was then and what I'd do is fill the tub with a hot bubble bath, play some soothing music and just lay there and go limp for a few. It worked every time. :)Hope your suck fest is over at this point. :)
Carol L.
Lucky4750@aol.com

kimmyl said...

I like going to the park and walking for about 45 minutes. Seems to calm me.